I’m having a problem…

OK, so I have a 6 1/2 month old son and I am 2 months pregnant with my second child.  My son used to sleep through the night pretty well, falling asleep between 1900 & 2000 hrs, and then waking back up again between 0400 & 0500 hrs.  But, then he started getting ear infections and since his first ear infection, he hasn’t slept through the night except for a handful of nights. 

I am married to the father of both of my children, we sleep in the same bed most nights, (I sleep in the full size bed in the baby’s room when I get pissed off at my husband..) so my husband is beside me and should be able to hear the baby crying from the baby monitor that is right beside out bed, especially since I have it turned up full volume.  My husband is a very heavy sleeper, but I thought that if I tried to wake him up when I needed help at night with the baby, or when I needed a break from getting up every couple of hours, I thought that he would get up to help me and do his fatherly duties by taking care of the baby.  The other night, (13 April 09) before we went to sleep, my husband told me that if I needed his help with the baby, to wake him up and he would take care of whatever the baby needed.

So, being the wife that believes what her husband says about helping during the night, I woke up when the baby started crying at around 0200 hrs, I fed him a bottle, I tried to rock him back to sleep, I failed.  So, at 0300 hrs, I was getting frustrated, I was extremely tired from being up a couple of hours before that for an hour, plus I pregnant, I decided that I didn’t need to take care of the baby anymore because my nerves were shot, I was getting frustrated and upset, and I just plain needed help.  I tried to wake my husband, and the father of my baby, up to help me. 

Instead of him waking up, he rolled over, and after moaning to make me think he heard me, he was sound asleep.  I tried to wake him up again.  This time, he woke up after I shouted at him “DID YOU HEAR WHAT I SAID?” and replied by yelling back to me “YEAH, you want ME to take care HIM?!” and then rolled over again and went back to sleep.  So, I stayed up another hour trying to get MY son to fall back to sleep. 

Last night, (the very next night), I told my husband what happened the night before, and I told him that if I was a single parent it would be OK if I didn’t have help at night when the baby woke up, but since I am married and he sleeps right beside me, I shouldn’t have to act and live as if I am a single parent.   I went on to explain that I cannot wake up in the mornings and be on time to work because I am so tired from having to be up over half the night with the baby, I cannot function properly because I’m always tired, I never feel good pregnancy-wise because I am always tired, and it’s simply not fair to me that I have a husband that will not help, and actually yells at me like I have no business even trying to ask for his help when the baby wakes up in the middle of the night.  I asked my husband what I could/can do in order to wake him up during the night for him to help me.  I told him I will not punch him like he has told me to do before, because it’s ludicrous, and I told him that I have thought about throwing a glass of water on him, but then the bed I have to sleep in would be wet, and that he probably wouldn’t wake up even if I did that.  Instead of him answering me, he just went to the bathroom to brush his teeth.  I fell asleep while he was brushing his teeth because it takes him 10 fucking minutes to finish that task, and I was tired.

I need any suggestions my readers have for  me, any advice, I would be so greatful.  Anything you can think of that would help me get my husband to wake up and help me during the nights, at least one time when the baby wakes up.  I do have one idea, but I really don’t want it to come to this….

I have thought about telling him that he cannot stay at the house until he can take some of the responsibility of having a baby, and start helping me during the night.  I will do that if I have to, but I really don’t want it to come to that.  However, I do feel that if I am going to be acting as single mother would act, and do everything myself without his help, then I do not need the stressor of seeing him get a full nights sleep because he refuses to help me.

My second baby is due the end of October or the first of November, and I know that if things don’t change now, they definitely won’t after the second baby gets here.  What’s worse is that instead of working after the second baby gets here, I am going to go back to school and get my degree.  ( I only have 1.5 yrs left before I get my degree, and the sooner I finish the sooner I can get a stable job and steady income..)  I seriously don’t think I can go back to school and pass my classes if I am waking up at all hours of the night without his help at all to take care of a newborn and sometimes a 13 month old…

Please, tell me what you think I should do….Insight from others  always helps…

Thank you….:-)

Carpal Tunnel…

Well, I woke up this morning, got ready for work, got my son ready to go to daycare, and realized that my left wrist hurt every time I moved my hand or fingers in a certain way…So, I went to the Dr.  My doc told me that I am developing carpal tunnel syndrome.  She said it is common in pregnant women, and then she gave me a brace to wear for the duration of my pregnancy.

It sucks because I do nothing but type stuff at work, I change diapers and make bottles at home, and I rarely ever do anything new or different with my hands…I pretty much have the same routine every day.  My doc told me that I am kind of on the bad end of having Carpal Tunnel, because not only am I pregnant, but my job consists of mostly typing, and I have an almost 7 months old infant…So, all around, it sucks that my wrist has started hurting.

Oh, and to top it off, I have been getting progressively worse headaches.  Each day they get a little worse and a little longer than the day before.  So, the doc gave me some pregnancy safe migraine medicine…Problem is, I have to take the medicine at the onset of the headache, not after it gets bad…I hardly ever notice that I have a headache until it gets really bad, so that in itself is the problem…Also, the meds have a tendency of making people that take it dizzy, so I can’t take it at work, or before I drive somewhere, so the times that I can take it are limited anyway…

I will probably just stick to taking Tylenol…

So, that’s it…until next time, Happy Blogging!!!

I’m definitely there…

So…you know that place where you know you need to / have to work full-time meets that place where you’re pregnant, tired, and just want to be a stay at home mommy at least until your babies have started school…I’m definitely there…

I usually love working…I love doing what I do…I love helping Soldiers get what they need accomplished and if there are any problems Soldiers, I love doing my job to get rid of them.  (I know, it sounds harsh, but I can’t help it, it’s the truth and I love kicking them out if they don’t want to be a part of our great Army.)  Notice, I said I “USUALLY” love working. 

Lately though, I have been so tired, I’m sure because I’m pregnant, and I take care of my 6 month old son after work, during the night if he wakes up, and then of course in the morning before daycare.  Now-a-days I just want to stay home all day with my little boy, cuddle with him in the mornings as he is waking up, feed him breakfast, lunch, dinner, & bottles, sing him songs, read him books, play with him and all of his little toys…make him laugh, hear him “talk”….I just want to stay at home and take care of him…

Our daycare rates just went up, thanks to my raise this year…so, I kind of have to work, or I could just stop working, then we wouldn’t have to worry about paying for daycare….that would be so nice.

My little baby boy just graduated to room 7, which is the 6 – 12 month old room…he is getting so big and growing so fast…I wanted to cry when I looked at all the pictures they gave me from his old room, room 2…Today is his first day in room 7…

Right now he is probably the youngest baby in the room.  When I dropped him off this morning, there was one other baby in there, he was 8 months old and crawling around everywhere…Riley can’t crawl yet, and he can’t sit up unassisted yet either, so he’s got to catch up with the other little guy in there…The teacher, Miss Michelle had a little seat in the floor for Riley, but it didn’t have a front on it, just a back, so when he leaned forward to get a toy, he fell over sideways, and his head kind of went into the box of toys…He didn’t cry, because he hardly ever cries, he just stayed there until Miss Michelle sat him upright again, which was only a second or two after he fell…His tush is still a little round, so he can’t really balance that well on it…

Anyway, They are going to start feeding him foods…I have been feeding him foods for the past week or so..we have to feed our babies new foods at home for 5 days before daycare will feed them that way we can see if there is going to be any negative reactions to anything…So far, there have been no negative reactions…thank goodness!

Anyway, used to I would blog about work, but now I don’t really have any interest in what I do at work, I just miss my baby while I’m supposed to be working….I hate it, I’m miserable…I want to quit doing the full time thing, and just go back to doing the weekend thing once a month…I want to be a Mommy first, and a Soldier second…Sue me, I would rather spend time with my son than with ungrateful, disrespectful, irritating idiots…

I want to go to daycare, pick up my little boy, and just go home.

Have I complained recently?

OK, so I know I haven’t blogged a lot lately.  Mainly because I have a five month old baby, and my high-speed internet isn’t as high speed as i would like it to be…Any-who, because I haven’t blogged as of late like I used to, I have decided that it is time for me to bitch, moan, and complain about my job…or rather the people that think i work for them at my job…

I am still in the Army.  I have no civilian job, I work full time for my Army Unit.  I love being in the Army.  The Army gives me some good friends, most that will last a lifetime, it gives me an extended family, it gives me job security (which with today’s economy security in your job is practically priceless,) and it gives me something to talk about with people.  Whether it be complaining or praising…

So, I am my Brigade’s Paralegal Non-Commissioned Officer In Charge (NCOIC).  I work for the Brigade Commander and in his absence I work for the SSA (who, on the military side, is my Battalion Sergeant Major)  I don’t work for anyone in the friggin S1 Shop.  (the S1 Shop is the office where all the human resource, personnel, and administration work is done)

I work directly for the Colonel or his representative, not a friggin Warrant Officer that thinks she is king shit on turd hill, not the SAS, not the HR SGT, NO ONE BUT THE COL OR HIS REP!

This WO1 continues to think, or act as if she thinks, I work for her.  She tells me I need to give her updates instead of leaving her out of the loop about what I’m doing and the status of all the packets I’m working.  She asks me, “Do you understand what I mean when I tell you that I need updates?”  I want to tell her to go eat shit, or crawl into a whole and sit there until someone lets her know it’s OK to come out…I want to tell her to go f*ck herself.  Do I understand….is she friggin serious?!?!?

She thinks I give everyone updates except her, when in actuality, I don’t give anyone updates until something is completed, or changed in some way.  I don’t feel like it’s necessary to tell her that 1 day has passed since I mailed something out or that 2 days have passed since I last gave her the same f*cking update I gave her 2 days ago.  It’s a waste of time and makes the work I’m doing seem monotonous.

I just wish she would shut her fat f*cking mouth and let me work the way I know how, and the way I’m supposed to.  It’s Micro-Managing at it’s worst.  She also feels it necessary to tell me when her deadlines are.  I want to tell her that I don’t give a f*ck when her damn deadlines are, I have my own to worry about and if she hasn’t noticed I don’t try to burden her with mine so please do me the courtesy of not trying to burden me with hers.

I hate it when people that are not my boss act as if they are.  Like they have some major influence in or on what I do or do not do.  I want to take this time out and tell her to kiss my tush!

Thank You for letting me vent!  Until next time~~Happy  Blogging!

Beautiful Baby!!!

Ok, so my mother-in-law asked me & my husband a few months ago if we had thought about entering our son into the Photogenic category in our town’s pageant.  I of course said no, and that I disagreed with parents putting their children in pageants when the child is too young to be able to say they want to or they don’t want to.  I think it should be up to the child, not up to the parents.  When I told her that, she quickly informed me that all I would have to do is enter a photo, and that my baby wouldn’t even have to be present the night of the pageant, as long as they had his picture.  She told me she would pay the entry fee and she would take care of everything, the only thing I had to do is pick out a picture, professional or snap-shot, and give it to her to enter.

So, I gave in…Since he didn’t have to be there, except in a frame…

Well, the pageant was on March 7, 2009.  We entered a photo that we had taken for his 3 month picture(s).  He has a big smile, and is wearing the cutest little striped outfit with a wolf face on the chest…He looks perfect!!  Wouldn’t ya know, my baby won the photogenic category!  My mother-in-law told me the title he received, it’s something like “Little Prince” or something similar….anyway, He won a trophy and his picture will be in our town’s newspaper.  I am so proud!

I feel a little hypocritical because of the way I really feel about pageants, but I can’t help it…I think that entering a picture is a smidge different than actually making your child parade around on a stage all dressed up and made up.  We just entered a picture that we had already had taken-before we even had knowledge of the pageant, so…am I really a hypocrit or is it just my defiance against pageants poking through??

Oh well, who cares, I just really wanted to share the fact that my baby boy won most photogenic!!!  YAY!!!

My Little Boy!!!

Here are some recent pictures of my little boy…I think he is hands down the cutest baby in the world!!  Of course, I am biased…But, really, can you blame me????

In a couple of the pictures, he has a pink frog, I bought it for him for Valentine’s Day, and because it is so soft, it is his favorite toy….It’s so funny to see him get excited about me giving him this frog, so he can immediately put the frog feet in his mouth and the little eye bump things too…it is too cute!!!

The plaid base ball hat is his first baseball hat….I think he looks adorable in this hat, he also has some beanie’s that he wears when we go outside when the wind is blowing so his ears can be covered up and his head can stay warm…

He loves to jump in his jumper…He just bounces in it for as long as we let him….It’s very good exercise!  Plus, it has so many different toys and lights and songs that it makes it exciting all of the time!!!

He is amazing!!!  I love him so much!!!

Irish Twins?

I know that the term “Irish Twins” may have a derogatory meaning to some people, but I’m not one of those people.  I don’t think it means anything rude or crude, at least, it doesn’t to me.

I just had my first baby on 29 September 2008.  My son is just wonderful.  He is sweet, beautiful, smart, everything that mothers think about their babies.  His laugh lights up the room, his smile is contagious, he is wonderful!  Initially I wanted him to be an only child for the first few years of his life.  You know, that way he could have all of my attention, have all of his daddy’s attention, his grandparents attention, etc….

However, just this week, I found out that I am pregnant again.  I’m due on 28 October 2009.  So by definition, he won’t actually be an Irish Twin, but since he will only be 13 months older than the second baby, we are just going to use the term anyway. 

When I found out that I’m pregnant again, I was shocked, and happy at the same time…I walked out of the bathroom smiling, and instantly my hubby knew what my smile meant.  It will be tough having two little ones at the same time, but it will also be fun.  They will be close enough in age to be good friends, and play together all the time.

I still want to have at least one more after this one, and hopefully I will be blessed again someday.  For now, I am counting my blessings to have the sweetest baby in the world, and to be pregnant with another one that will make me the mother of the two sweetest babies in the world.

~Happy Blogging!!~~

Popular Baby Names…

OK, so right now, I am at work….Yes, I am supposed to be doing actual work, but, I’m sure you all know how boring that can be.  So, instead, I have been looking at popular baby names!  My husband and I are finding out if our little bundle of joy will be a a little boy or a little girl this Thursday, so I have been wondering about different names. 

So far, the only name my husband will tell me he likes is the name Tristen/Tristan for a little boy.  He doesn’t want to go further into the name discussion until he knows for sure what our baby will be.  I like the name Olivia Marie for a little girl.  I told him that he can name the baby if it’s a boy, as long as I approve of the name.  Yes, because I am carrying this baby for 9 months, I get VETO POWER! As every Mommy should!  I also told him that I am naming our baby if it’s a girl, and he gets NO VETO POWER!  As it should be! LOL!

So, I came across this site:  http://www.socialsecurity.gov/OACT/babynames/

You can see the most popular names in the U.S. for 2007, and there is a link on the page that you can click and find out the most popular baby names for every year since 1880 (I think.)

I am very excited to find out if we are having a little girl or a little boy!  Of course, my hubby is hoping for a boy, and I am hoping for a girl, but the only thing we are praying for is a happy, healthy baby….you know, 5 fingers on each hand, and 5 toes on each foot, etc.

A lot of people think we are crazy for not wanting to be surprised, and then there are some that think we would be crazy if we wanted to be surprised.  I just want to be able to buy and register for mostly pink frilly things if it’s going to be a girl, or blue, boyish things if it’s going to be a boy.  I don’t want to get just the generic colors that go with both genders…(yellows and greens)….

Plus, there is still a chance of surprise, because the Dr’s results/findings in ultrasounds have been known to be wrong before…..Example:  My aunt just knew she was having a boy…the doc said so, several times….but when the baby came out, it was a little girl.  That was 24 years ago.  More recently, my cousin-in-law had an ultrasound and the doc kept flipping from one appointment to the other…first a girl, then a boy, back to girl, no wait, boy….so, when the baby finally came, it was a boy!  That was 3 years ago….

Hopefully our doctor will tell us a sex and stick to it, because hopefully he will be right the first time he tells us boy or girl.  But you never really know I guess, until D-Day (Delivery Day)….

Anyway, if anyone has any name ideas, please leave a comment!!!  I would love to read your suggestions!!!

Until next time, Happy Blogging!

Update on me….

Hey blogland!  Well, I have a lot of news!  First off, I am no longer a single woman!!!! YAY!!!  On March 29, 2008, I married the man of my dreams!  It was a beautiful wedding, if I do say so myself!  I love being married!

Also, I am pregnant!!!!  I thought I wouldn’t be able to ever get pregnant, because I have some health issues that could have prevented it.  But, I was wrong!  I will become a mommy around September 30, 2008.  I am so excited I can hardly wait!  So far, everything has gone really well with my pregnancy, and hopefully everything will continue to go well.  I have been really sick with morning sickness, but other than that, all is good.

Oh, and for those of you who don’t know, “morning sickness” is a misnomer…..I have been sick all day long every day since I got that first positive pee test!  I have probably missed  total of close to 2 full weeks of school, and have tired everything to keep from throwing up….

Recently though, I have discovered that taking my anti-puke pill right before bedtime, and then again when I wake up in the morning helps me out a ton!

Right now I am about 17 weeks along (4 months and 1 week)…..I am scheduled for an ultrasound to determine the baby’s sex in about 2 weeks.  We are both so excited to find out whether the baby is a boy or a girl…..Of course, my hubby wants a little boy, and I want a little girl, but we will both be ecstatic no matter what.  We aren’t praying for anything other than a happy, healthy baby.  I just can’t wait to become a mommy!!!

Alright, that is all I have for now….sorry it’s been so long since my last post, I have been super busy with school work, army stuff, and hugging the toilet….I’ll post again when I have a little more to say!

Until next time~Happy Blogging!~

A repeat of some New Year’s Eve Toasts…..Enjoy!

1. Here’s to you, here’s to me, here’s to girls that get on their knees!

2. I love ‘em in leather, I love ‘em in lace, I love ‘em the best when they sit on my face!

3. Good bye, good luck, get high, get f*cked!

4. In the New Year, may your right hand always be stretched out in friendship, but never in want!

5. I drink champagne when I’m happy and when I’m sad. Sometimes I drink it when I’m alone. When I have company I consider it obligatory. I trifle with it if I’m not hungry and drink it when I am. Otherwise I never touch it – unless I’m thirsty!

6. May we be alive at this time next year!

7. Always do what you are afraid to do.

8. A toast! To our wives, and our girlfriends…may they never meet.

9. Gentlemen! I’ve drunk your health in Company,I’ve drunk your health alone. I’ve drunk your health so many times, I’ve darn near ruined my own! Here’s to me!

10. Here’s to the perfect girl. Who could ask for more, she’s deaf ‘n dumb, oversexed, and owns a liquor store.

11. Here’s to honor. Get on her. Stay on her. And if you can’t cum in her,cum on her.

12. Here’s to the hole that never heals, the more you rub it the better it feels, and all the soap this side of hell, won’t wash away that fishy smell.

13. Here’s to you and here’s to me, and to all the guys that lick us where we pee.

14. Here’s to those who sit when they pee.

15. Of all my favorite things to do, the utmost is to have a brew.
My love grows for my foamy friend,
With each thirst-quenching elbow bend.
Beer’s so frothy, smooth and cold–
It’s paradise–pure liquid gold.
Yes, beer means many things to me…
That’s all for now, I gotta pee!

16. Here’s to a long life and a happy one.
A quick death and an easy one.
A pretty girl and an honest one.
A cold beer and another one!

17. Best while you have it use your breath,
There is no drinking after death.

18. To women and horses, and the men that ride them.

19. DOH – The stuff that buys me beer.
RAY – The guy who sells me beer.
ME – The guys who drinks the beer.
FAR – A long way to get beer.
SO – I’ll have another beer.
LA – I’ll have another beer.
TEA – No thanks I’m drinking beer.
And that brings me back to DOH!

20. Here’s to women.
No other creature in Heaven or hell,
Can take the fruit from a nut,
Without ever breaking the shell.

21. Down your throat,
Into your bladder,
Which end it comes out,
Does it really matter?

 

It’s that time again blogland!  It’s almost New Year’s Eve, and that means that most of you will be out having a good time, at a party, with your friends, loved ones, and some of you will be with people you have just met, or haven’t met yet…..Whatever your New Year’s plans are this year, please remember this:

It’s better to drink and stay where you are, or have a sober designated driver take you to your final destination.

The police will always give you a free ride to jail.

If you drive drunk, you’re not only endangering yourself, you’re endangering everyone else  on the road too.

Sex is fun, but please use protection!!!

Please, have a great time this year, but always be smart and be safe.   You do want to live to see the rest of 2008, don’t you?!?!?!

Happy Blogging!!!